It is very sad to me to know people whose hearts are aching and not to be able to fix it. I always seem to want to fix it or make it better when really I am just an ordinary human being with no power to intervene I know individuals who have recently lost a spouse. How well I know that pain. I really believe it is impossible to have any understanding of that grief until you experience it. One individual has just buried her husband about a week ago and it is quite heartbreaking to read what she writes of the pain she is experiencing and her calls for prayer and help. It reminds me of pain of my own and I avoid going there -- so I understand. In other cases individuals have aching hearts after learning a spouse has been unapologetically unfaithful. Trust has been lost. Mates are bewildered wondering where to turn, what to do, and who(m) to believe. Families are broken and children are hurt.
Grief is the hardest work you will ever do in this life, I believe. When faced with grief we all must struggle through its many stages whether it comes as the result of the loss of a loved one through death or infidelity. The stages of grief do not come in a set order. We all deal with it in our own way and through its stages in our own order. Some people experience anger before hurt. Some on the other hand may not deal with anger until the final stage. But however it comes it is most difficult.
It goes without saying that we should always be kind to one another-- so that we can be in a position to lift one another up. At best we all have difficult days and we do not know what burdens our friends may be carrying or what unspoken needs they may have.
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